These two weeks have served as a concentrated learning experience in every aspect. I’ve learned so much about Girls for Gender Equity, how to work an 8-hour day in an office, all about the girls in the Moxie program, how the subways work, how to feed myself off of $10 a day, and how not to cry when a pigeon flies into my face.
I sat to think about the most meaningful thing I’ve learned in my time so far, and nothing rang stronger than what I’ve learned about myself. In my two weeks, I’ve experienced a surge in confidence in my abilities and autonomy through having an increased sense of freedom and independence.
College is a coming of age experience where you feel freedom for the first time. You’re supposed to be able to explore your passions, make connections for your career, and spend hours lost in conversation with new people. I’ve done that to an extent, but being a rower certainly makes my life different from that of the typical college student. When you have to wake up at 6 am and give several hours of your day to one thing, it’s hard to feel fully free and in control of your life. My experience in New York has proven to be my first experience of actual independence and freedom that allows me to start to discover myself.
For the first time in my college career, I felt that I’ve been able to fully commit to something. I have a crazy passion for my fields of study (Global Health, Psychology, and Gender, Sexuality & Feminist Studies). After a 10 minute conversation with me you can almost guess what I’m studying. However, I rarely feel that I have the time to give my studies what they deserve. I’ll do only the necessary readings for classes, and probably only skim them for the hopes of one night sleeping six hours. I’ll nod off in class not because I’m not interested, but because I stretch myself so thin. I’ve learned I don’t know how to not do too much. When there’s so many interesting opportunities at Duke, I can never seen to put sleep first.
It feels like a constant game of catch up and not being able to show my level of commitment through my work. There is also a confidence gap at play that definitely needs to be shaken. In every academic space I enter at Duke, I automatically assume that everyone is more intelligent than I am. I got into Duke through athletics and came from such a competitive high school that I wouldn’t have been able to get in otherwise. No matter how well I do at Duke and stack up against the other students, this feeling pervades. Through psychology and GSF classes, I’ve learned that this insecurity likely plays to my own detriment. Getting into the Moxie program was a huge shock and thrill for me, knowing I had been selected among plenty of other students for nothing else but my passion, intelligence, and ability to connect with people.
While rowing has definitely been a significant stressor in my Duke experience, I’d be crazy not to acknowledge what it has given me. Stretching myself thin, working all day, and barely sleeping are all realities that have become normal. I’m used to a day that starts before 6 am, in which I won’t have the time to return to my room until late at night. It’s go-go-go all the time. Being a committed Duke student is like a full-time job, and so is rowing. I often feel as though I’m balancing a dual life and doing a disservice to both. For the first time, I’m all in.
I’ve learned that I’m actually a very high functioning human being. On my first week, my supervisor assigned me my first project and gave me a few days to complete it. I had nothing to do after work, which is a very novel concept to me. Thrilled from my newfound freedom, I decided I’d complete the project in my apartment to have done the next day. This is definitely a “try-hard” move and not exactly necessary, but I was just so excited to finally have the time to complete what’s asked of me. In meeting with my supervisor, I asked what I could do better, to which she responded that I’d been doing great and that she was really impressed with my efficiency.
Not only have I been able to fully commit myself to GGE, I’ve been fully able to commit to myself. When you’re fighting to maximize sleep and live as efficiently as possible, you have to pick and choose what’s necessary. You don’t get to spend time lost in your own thoughts, reflecting on your goals, or going exploring. In these past two weeks, I’ve had the opportunity to do more introspection than ever before. I’m journaling every day, writing poetry, and engaging in the most thoughtful discussion with other Moxies, friends in New York, and even my mom.
(this is my journal and my desk! aren’t they cute??)