This statement was proclaimed by my host sister last night when we discussed the differences between her and my host brother’s nightly activities. I engaged my 20-year old host sister in a conversation about my 15-year old host brother and my observations about his behaviors. I’ve been living with my new family in Marrakech for about two weeks now- consisting of a host mom, dad, sister (20 years old), and two younger brothers (15 and 5 years old). My host sister is the only one in the family who speaks English, and is therefore the person in the family I speak to the most. She is a second year at Marrakech University and also takes English classes at the American Language Center! She has been great host- driving me around on her motorbike and inviting me to have tea with her and her friend. I would like to say that I have become pretty good friends with her. Last night, I happened to ask her where Sema’a, (the 15 year old brother) was, and she replied, “out.”
“He’s always out!” I said, jokingly.
She laughed and agreed, and also added that the previous night he hadn’t even come home.
This intrigued me, since I haven’t seen her step out once the whole time I’ve been here.
“You’re parents are okay with that?” I said, not knowing what else to say.
“No! Of course not!” She said. “But there is nothing they can do!”
“What about if you did that?” I asked, curious to see if she was just a very anti-social person.
“Oh my god, my parents would kill me!” She said, surprised I even suggested it.
I was compelled to ask: “Couldn’t they just kill him?! Why can’t they do the same to him?!” and she said,
“Well, he is a boy, and I am a girl.”
And that was that. He was a boy. She was a girl. That said it all. I couldn’t say I was surprised. From my time here in Morocco, and from other experiences I’ve had in the Arab World, I have gained such an interesting perspective on various gender issues that exist in predominately Islamic societies. This is not the first conversation I’ve had with my host sister regarding gender inequalities and norms here in Morocco. Last week, I had tea with her and her friend, where we discussed different gender norms in respect to dating and relationships. They told me how difficult it was being a girl here, as they have to abide by a completely different set of rules. Boys are held to a different standard, and aren’t condemned for sexual behaviors before marriage like girls are. It is very crucial for girls to be virgins until marriage; it is custom that one receives a ‘virgin certificate’ from a doctor confirming this. Sexual behaviors are just one type of behavior that girls cannot indulge in for fear that is not acceptable or allowed.
Once arriving in Morocco, it didn’t take long before I came to the realization that I would be treated differently because of my gender. Simply walking down the street can become an extremely uncomfortable task as I become subjected to various cat-calling, whistling, and poor pick up attempts. The harassment women face on a day-to-day basis is strikingly different from anything I would have to deal with in the States. The type of respect and autonomy granted to me in the states is non-existent here, as I am constantly objectified and demeaned. Walking around the city, it is apparent that there are big differences between the two genders. Most women wear Djellabas and head scarfs, covering almost all of their bodies and figures, swallowing it into a long drape of cloth. There are some women who wear ‘western’ clothing (tight jeans, cute shirts), but it is rare, and if so, it is almost always more conventionally or complimented with a traditional headscarf. Although the dress and general appearance of all women on the streets might differ slightly, almost all are dressed more conservatively than the men.
(a woman in Marrakech wearing a Djelleba while riding her motorbike)
Why is it that girls are simply held to different standards? Why are they treated differently within a religion that preaches equality for all under God?
To study these issues further, our class is reading ‘The Veil and the Male Elite: A Feminist Interpretation of Islam”. Although I am currently only on Part 2, as I continue reading, the insight I have gained has only added onto my real life experiences as a girl here and overall observations of gendered life here in Morocco. The author, Fatima Mernissi, begins by diving into the origins of Islamic teachings, the Koran, and analyzing how the different Hadiths (short accounts of the Prophet’s words and deeds reported by his disciples) came about and even in some instances translated into modern religious practices, law and politics.
One example of a Hadith relating to women in Islam is the Hadith that mentions how the prophet uttered that the dog, the ass, and the women interrupt prayer if they pass in front of the believer, interposing themselves between him and the qibla (orientation to the ka’ba). This Hadith deeply disturbed the author, as the Hadith was suggesting harm against women. It categorized them with other disorienting things, and therefore inherently marginalized them with society. This concept was translated into my daily observations here of gendered Moroccan religious practices. In mosques, women are not allowed to pray with the men. They are put in a separate room, or are encouraged to pray at home. From both my families in Fes and in Marrakech, I have observed that the women in the family pray at home, while the men always went to the mosque. This always struck me as a unique phenomenon, as I had previous notions of synonymous religious practices for all.
There is also another Hadith Mernissi mentions, arguably the most popular pertaining to women’s rights in Islam, that “Those who entrust their affairs to a woman will never know prosperity”. Although there is a lot of controversy over this powerful Hadith, it has very visible and discernible consequences for modern-day life in an Islamic country. This is evidently still believed, since most of those in politics and in powerful positions in society are men. From most of my observations, this has held true. Most of the figures of authority like police officers and traffic cops I see on the streets are men. Of the various educational institutions we’ve been to, like the University and the American centers both here and in Fes, the people in the highest positions have been men. Even most of the businesses and stores here are operated by men- most of the people I see standing behind the counter and managing the operations of the stores are almost always men.
These arguments/observations are not to be generalized to all affairs conducted with predominantly Islamic societies. The Hadiths I chose to elaborate on are ones specifically mentioned in Mernissi’s book, and as her point eludes, are highly contested by modern scholars such as herself. As her main argument suggests, Islamic teachings are based strongly off of interpretations. I myself am only taking what I have learned and applying it to my real life observations and experiences.
Marrakech and Fes have been very different in terms of these gendered experiences. Marrakech is definitely a more ‘western’ city, with more tourists and English speaking Moroccans. It is also where, surprisingly enough, there has been more of a contrast in terms of women’s conventional practices. Women in Marrakech are either wearing a full Djellaba or full western clothing. Here, there are more women out in bars, restaurants and cafes sitting alone or with friends. Also, I’ve also experienced less harassment than in Fes.
(taken in the back of a cab in Marrakech)
Is this due to outside influences, pressuring the society to adhere to more ‘modernized’ gendered norms and behaviors? Living in a predominantly Islamic country, it is easy to pass off these cultural norms and gender roles as stemming from a historically oppressive religion. Is that really the origin of these practices? Did God (Allah), and/or the prophet really mean to place women inferior to men? Or is it an evolutionary phenomenon entranced by a historically patriarchal society? What came first, men’s sexist views of women or the prophet’s revelations that were interpreted by these men to be inherently sexist?
The role of religion in the lives of Moroccans and the clash it has with the average citizens practices and behaviors is something we aim to study more in our class. Next week, after returning from the Sahara Desert, we start conducting interviews with native Moroccans on the impact religion has on their views of citizenship. It will be interesting to contrast their responses to my observations and experiences as a women here in Morocco.